Notice – Take turns noticing something about your experience with the other person. What you notice does not have to be related to or influenced by what the other person is notices. What’s most important is awareness of your own experience in the moment; what YOU are noticing. You can share observations, thoughts, sensations, feelings etc.
P1: What I notice when I’m with you is…
P2: Hearing that, what I’m noticing is…
P1: Hearing that, what I’m noticing is…
P2: Hearing that, what I’m noticing is…
Examples
Appearance:
…the smoothness of your skin.
…the way your earrings jingle when you laugh.
…that you seem to be looking away a lot.
…the gap between your front teeth when you smiled just then.
Sensations:
…I’m feeling nervous tension in my chest.
…I felt my shoulders relax when you smiled just now.
…I’m feeling uncomfortable with this intense eye contact.
…I felt giddy and turned-on when you said that.
Thoughts:
…I’m thinking about when we first met.
…I’m curious about how you got that scar on your forehead.
…I’m wanting to reassure you that I don’t feel offended by your comment.
Emotions:
…I’m scared that you’re upset that I pointed out the gap in your teeth.
…I’m grateful that we’re getting to have this experience together.
…I’m feeling frustrated that you keep breaking eye contact with me.
…I’m excited that you noticed my earrings because I made them myself.
…I’m feeling warmth in my chest and gratitude for you and for this moment.
…I’m having fun playing this game!
Notes
Be willing to take risks. The more vulnerable, edgy and unfiltered, the more exhilarating and engaging this game becomes. This includes sharing your nervousness, attraction and even frustration!
Keep it in-the-moment. Don’t prepare or think about what you might say. Try to notice the impact each person’s share has on you; let it unfold organically, allow yourself to be surprised by what comes out of your mouth!
Others may witness the exchange and offer their shares (e.g. while I sit here, I notice/feel/imagine/think…). Participants take turns sharing at the end or when invited to do so.
Free Flow Variation
I notice… (Something directly observable without interpretation)
I feel… (Emotion and/or physical)
I’m thinking…
I imagine… (This is your interpretation)
I’m curious about…
I … because …
Being with you, I notice… and I imagine… Is that true?
Being with you, I notice… and I imagine… I feel… and I want to…
Credit
This game was developed by the community at AuthenticWorld.com
This game was developed by the community at AuthenticWorld.com
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